Hmmmm where and what

Yes yes we are at another Monday and although this past week wasn't as eventful as the last it still had its "things".  Obviously our Governor could be discussed every week so for the sake of entertaining I will not do so.  Lets just say the more I read and learn about politics the more I realized my preconceived notions were right and I get a bit frustrated.  I digress so the big debates last week were about the FINAL FOUR and kids staying in school not staying in school etc., plus a topic that I will spend some time on this particular blog post. 

A group of married men (one newlywed) and myself of course had "the" discussion with the grasshopper about the INSTITUTION. Now mind this is a group of guys all expressing their thoughts so about the changes, the responsibilities, the "submission" hahahah.  Now we all realized that there are changes that come with "signing nem papers" (women may argue this but that's fine this is from a male perspective so) and the consensus was that the fact of "submission" (take the term on the surface not literally) comes more from us than it does women.  Men generally submit for the simple fact of not having to debate, be challenged, or argue about mainly what appears as trivial (pick your battles).  Mind this group of gentlemen had never had this talk we just gravitated to it.  All of us had our stories of "giving in" and learning how to always be wrong.  The Grasshopper in this conversation asked several "grasshopper-like" questions in which each guy gave a scenario but all have virtually the same response.  Questions such as:  1. What about sex 2. Home projects 3. Going out 4. Consequences.  Each guy appropriately responded based on personal experience but each had the same results; 1. will decrease with a sharp decline 2. will increase 3. will decrease for the sake of "why do you need to go out" 4. Ultimately if you challenge any of the above questions you will be met with stiff resistance and ultimately will just be mad and stay home.  If you are a married man reading this I know you are laughing because you recognize where you fall in.  Now by no means were we discouraging the grasshopper about the INSTITUTION we were simply helping him properly identify what the hell he has gotten himself into.  Now many of the "council" (I will refer to this group for the remainder) all previously dated and courted for years prior to jumping broom and each said that once it became law binding all the previous +/- were erased from the hard drive and you have a new slate to work from which is notably dominated by the spouse.  OK for virgin readers I know this may all sound negative but it truly isn't it is just a way for some grasshoppers to understand and conceptualize what they are embarking on.  In this day in age where the divorce rate is astounding we can look at the dynamics and variables of why it is what it is (save for later discussion).  Without really understanding the dynamics and variables you will slowly realized the INSTITUTION is less about you and more about what your suppose to do (hahahaha).  "Grasshopper" quick rebutle was that "things are cool right now but I do foresee somethings already", we all laughed in unison because he is still reveling in the "newness" but reality will slowly be implemented so that he starts to understand that all the questions he initially asked will all reveal the answers we all responded with.  Now there are some dudes out there that will say "none of those apply" and I will respond with a. do you have children (likely not) b. if you call the shots, more than likely she is complaining to her girlfriend you just don't know it c. newlywed.   The INSTITUTION is not a science or for the lack of better terms about love, it is indeed a partnership based on the idea of cooperation, compromise, care, respect, and last but not least the L word.  Through several conversations (across all ethnic fronts) the thoughts and responses yield the same results.  As we wished grasshopper the best (as we were being summoned) we also told grasshopper to toss the notion of what it once was out the window because that will change.  Regardless if you find the "right" person the principals of matrimony are different and plain and simple. Women (many) have ambitions and dreams of the INSTITUTION and the overall idea of how it is going to be.  Men (most) generally "submit" to the INSTITUTION and the stability of it.  The socialism of it is what makes or breaks it, are we on the same page, are we growing together, are we both fueled by the initial fire that led us here?  Those are the questions people ask and ultimately become the blueprint of the INSTITUTION.

OK I have rambled long enough if you have responses and/or questions feel free to input or email me I will be more than obliged to respond.   This is merely my thoughts and opinions so....


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