What you want, what you need, what you are looking for, what you gonna find

Greetings.....ok now lets analyze some things here about the man and women relationship I am curious if women know when a man has good qualities and can't get right or he just aint right? Also have women not figured out if you lead the "friendship" with sex then we as men have established what kind of relationship it is? Ladies stop saying "i'm cool with it, I understand" you don't understand because you will always get emotionally attached. Men do misleading gestures all the time when its evolved around sex. Now I'm not saying by any means that some women can handle it and know what they want out of it (important: WHAT THEY WANT OUT OF IT). If you think that things are "all good" because he is satisfied you have lost the battle, men will be satisfied all the time if sex is the lead in pitch. Now if the understanding is that you want to build a friendship ladies you have to keep "man" on a bed of eggs that he is afraid to break. Now the catch is you cant make him feel like there is know light at the end of the tunnel because he will not lay on the bed. I digress..........to my first question can women spot a good one in "player ways"? There are alot of decent dudes out there that are afraid to settle down because out side of the oats being soiled they have not been touched emotionally where there is a connection. If the cat likes sports and you don't give a damn about sports or don't know who the Pittsburgh Bobcats are??????????????? then there is a problem. You have to like sports for the moment that like you wanting him to enjoy going in GAP, SAXE, LOUIS, GUCCI, ARDEN B, etc. find his hot spots (no pun) and cater to them in return you will get more out of it trust me. This subject is a little all over the place but I was thinking about it because I hear so much frustration on my friends behalf about no good men out there and dawg I'm going to settle down but......
The agendas have to match.......fellas learn how to listen, shut up, and learn how to take a deep breath and do what she ask. ladies learn how to leave him be, understand he doesn't like women things (shopping and reality shows), and hanging with the fellas has nothing to do with tryin to find other women.......it is HANGING WITH THE FELLAS. Now if you encompass liking sports and going out as well be careful of how much of either you indulge in because you have to make sure the main attraction in and out the house is he/she. One other note.....I don't talk about religion much ( I have my views on what GOD does for us) but please if you are not searching at bible study, Wednesday prayer night, earlier morning service, Sunday bible study, church barbecue, women's day, annual trip to carowinds then do not expect to find the holy saved man/women outside of that. I understand you want certain criteria but you cant expect you standards to be higher than want you stand to. If you want all of that but I see you at HUSH, PURE, TABU, 935, or anywhere in the A or other cities then you are not living by the standards you are looking for... If you are looking for the the saved then get saved and go find him/her in that setting. Thats all folks


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The attraction factor

Greetings......so I pose this question to a friend recently what draws people to each other? Its funny some of the answers you get but in a nut shell its all about preference. I used to have a thing about Fine, Sexy, Extremely beautiful women in ugly cars. Don't ask it was just one of my thing that and ugly shoes.....for instance (please don't take offense if you had one of these cars or shoes..) a fine women driving a old tarus (not the new ones they are nice) like 90 or 95 something like that or a fine women wearing bullet toes or something. I guess you can call me shallow but hey swaggar equals talking pretty, being pretty, looking pretty. Now I think I can talk to women and find there beauty. I think as a man you should make a women feel beautiful no matter if she is a friend or significant other....now now now dont get it twisted I address my wife totally different but, I think my friends will say I compliment and tell them that I think they are beautiful and try to encourage them. Men are shallow and a bit slow but we understand over time when some of us mature. Ladies don't get discouraged we take time to age and become the wine you want to drink... however trade in that tarus lol and those bullets and get a civic and some airforces lol....

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Thug, Good Guy, Nerd, or Ordinary, Ballers

Greetings..........Here is a question that is interesting b/c you always here women love bad boys although they know bad boys are not good for them. My question is is the Thug/Goon or whatever you want to call it as attractive as they appear to be? Why do women get drawn to Thugs? Good Guys really don't get play until the Thug does the Thug thing and that is going nowhere. The Nerd is only attractive in certain settings where his insight and knowledge are the wow factor of thats "what I need in my life". Ballers always get love b/c they some what encompass all of the above but they are more players than anything else on and off the court. Which one is the most desireable or wanted? What type of guy presents the biggest challenge for women? What makes a man intimadating.........not in a sense of fear but a sense of nervousness where he is so attractive that a. you don't know how to be around him or b. you want to keep distance b/c you know you would be attracted to a person that you are afraid to love "I'm not scared of lions, tigers, and bears....but I am scared of.....Loving you". Interesting one again but fun to talk about.


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Maybe the most interesting of all.....

Greetings...........now this one has been an accumulation of thoughts that have all come together for this particular topic. The question is, is there one person you would dropped it all for? You see it in the movies all the time but does that happen in real life? If you don't drop it all would you let your conscious and guard down to share a moment with someone? Has there been that "unfinished business scenario"? Whether its an intimate situation or just a heart to heart to let your now/then feelings all out on the table just so you can have "closure" with that person. Is there that someone in your life that you want to keep in your life b/c of the attraction but keep them at a distance for fear of what you might do? Are there people you want to see but don't really want to see b/c of your overwhelming feelings towards them despite your own situation. I find this topic interesting from past experiences where people wouldn't talk to me or didn't want to be near me b/c of bottle feelings. I can say this subject is somewhat attached to many of the other conversations but, like in the title this maybe the most interesting of them all.........let me know what you think


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