Food For Thought

In the cloud

2011-07-13T12:15:00.000-07:00

So I know I have been m.i.a. for awhile but it has been for good reason, however I find it very good that one of my readers brought it to my attention that I haven't blogged in awhile.thats a good thing because that lets me know that people are reading.

Now moving foreward, I was in orlando for vacation and found myself at Popeyes grubbing anyway so this asian family was dining and the husband had to make a few changes due to the wifes request so he does it and returns to eat and she says "well why didn't you get vegetables"and he looked ay her the only way a seasoned married man could look at his wife like CHILEPLEASE! At that moment I realized that all men were created equal hahahaha they eating fast food and she tombout damn vegetables I was on the floor dying (in my mind) I simply sol my head in mental agreeance with what I know what ge was thinking.

Moving along so I have realized many many things over the last couple weeks thru some of my struggles and my determination to get my own that your natural inclinations about people are generally true and as I make positive moves to each and maximize my potential I realize that (and I've said this numerous times) that if you invest, culture, and develop people your world will be better off...(to be continued).

I've found a new song and albeit a extra ratchet and should always be sung and played at a reckless level it has so much substance when it comes to peoples daily feelings about their environment...the song "throwed off - Treal Lee" the chorus can be applied to many different settings from the club to the work place. Now I don't recommend walking, singing, and/or playing this song inappropriately, I strongly suggest listening and singing it prior to entering the environment you need it for.

Well due to the fact that it's been a minute I will cut off here and tell more okn next weeks post...

Until...

Lessons

2011-06-21T13:56:00.000-07:00

Ok yes I have been a bit M.I.A for some time and I apologize to those who read this and (I wish) were wondering why there was a delay. Whelp!......

Got a lot going on and bottom line is I'm learning and getting such a valuable lesson about life and people. So I have just been laying low actually working on somethings more so than the life lessons thing but both have played a role in my limited accessibility. I won't be too long because I don't have much really to get into other than always monitor your surroundings and those in them and you will learn alot of things. Life has a funny way of teaching you and the Mos High (or whomever you look for spiritual guidance) has a way of strengthening you when you think all is good. Much reflection has gone into this past week and the energies and spirits of those around me. Taking time to decipher the lessons we learn whether it stubbing your pinky toe or dropping bbq sauce on your favorite shirt you always can learn something everyday. Always listen to peoples ways and actions and you will be able to translate the language they speak. I appreciate all the people in my life and those who I have come across because regardless of the situation I have learned from them. I'm thankful for all my blessings and I pray that everyone receives them as well so hahahah enough of the deep intellectual thought ............Y'ALL BE EASY OUT THERE YA HEAR!

Until...

Life's strangeness, Cell Phone Dependency and Sports...

2011-06-09T07:29:00.000-07:00

Wow its Thursday already and I almost ALMOST forgot to post, but once again I only have 7 subscribers so I doubt if many are missing anything.   Also wanted to let you know for all you techy folk you can pull this up on your mobile devices now, there is a mobile view that you can read this a bit easier on your Iphones, BlackBuurrrries, or Droid phones.

It's Hot in SC

Now, to the week in review I will try to be brief but hey I ramble that's why I started this blog in the first place. Life strangeness just the people you meet, encounter, or develop relationships with and how they oddly enough always serve a purpose in your life. I am very thankful for all the people I have come in contact with and those I will meet in the future no matter if its negative or positive you always grow and learn from each person or event you are personally involved in. Some people I have meet over the course of time I have yet to deciphered the purpose they have in my life but I am thankful to be in a situation to try and determine that. Ok that was the short and sweet version lets get to the meat of this weeks stuff...

It's hot in SC

Quick tidbit so my 2 year old son had what we thougtht were the chickenpox (rash like bumps) so as a concerned parent took him to the Dr and the M.D. says he had foot, mouth, and hand virus #blankstare...I'm looking at this man who is suppose to be a professional and has studied medicine and the answer for this uncomfortable irritable condition my boy is going thru as foot, mouth, and hand virus WTH is that? So I'm looking at him like you joking right, you could have at least tried to confuse me and call it pedioralfungalitis and then described it and I would have said "OH" as if understanding that its something special. So I say Doc what can we do to relieve his stress (sores in the mouth - couldn't eat or drink comfortably which both he likes to do) and the Doc says it has to run it's course I'm like man I just dropped a co-pay and waited forever for you to tell me he has this homemade named virus that will go away in a week? SMH I will get on Dr visits next week but some of the stuff they come up with is crazy in my 31 years of living (28 cognitive) I have never heard, seen, or known anyone that has had this....I will also discuss the medical industry next week too....stay tuned

It's HOT in SC
So last week my lifeline aka my attachment to the outside world (my phone) died on me, I have no explanation for the overwhelming loss I was feeling without my connection to the world. Retract...so I was updating my phone to have the newest and improved look to it and lets just say 24 hours later the update still wasn't complete and my phone as I knew it was just regulated to being a paper weight. So in my desperate attempts to revive it it was gone to cell phone heaven. So I called some of my contacts (which I rarely if any time ever call in for favors for my phone ) I super uber meticulous and picky when it comes to the care of my phone (don't judge me, and if you are SO).   So I go to the local retail establishment and reconnect with some old colleagues and friends and upon leaving I digressed in my cell phone-stivity i.e. a phone cheaper and not as nice as the one I had, ok of course I had something that worked but it wasn't "MY" phone. So I had to pull a trump card and called a close close friend who is connected with the industry about my dilemma. He understood the importance of this problem and within hours I was back on my 1,2's and better than ever. Now I know you are wondering what was the point of all that THE POINT IS I NEED MY PHONE hahahahaha nah the point is the dependency we have on these gadgets and their economic, financial, and social importance in our lives.

It's Hot in SC

In other news Dallas and MIA are tied 2-2 in the series which I think everyone believed MIA was going to just blow the series out the water and be crowned champs. Now as a conspiracy kinda guy I can analyze some of the anomalies here. MIA clearly the better overall team at some point seem completely dominate and at other times mechanical as if they are point shaving....ok ok ok I know that is a far fetched idea but lets look at this, this is one of the best Association finals in recent history and two of the potential biggest headlining teams in quite some time. One a team that has never one a chip and with old veterans who this maybe their last chance to cement their legacies and one player having one of the most efficient runs in the history of the game. On the other hand you have the villains who formed this super team and has been scrutinized and judged since their formation...Two icons competing on the same side for not only a chip, legacy, but for marketing and "props". Now with one of the icons facing the most judgement b/c of his lack of play in the shadow of the other people just don't turn it on and off if they really really really want to win. So in summary the longer this series goes the better build up, the greater hype and chatter, also tv ratings continue to sky rocket....I think you see where I am going with this.

Have I mentioned that it is HOT IN SC...

Well not a entertaining week but needless to say it had it's moments

Until...

I went out last week...so you know I gots something to say..hahahha

2011-05-30T07:42:00.000-07:00

Hey its Monday again...shat, time is flying. This weeks chatter will be mainly about social scene (at least in this city I call home). Due to the playoff hault b/c of preparations for the finals there wasn't much else hatneing (translation-happening).

Ok, so last week was at best dull until Friday and Saturday, where shall I start? Ok ok so some of my NFL bros came home (I sure hope it was for memorial weekend and not because they wanted to) and of course when you have been exposed to the "LIFE" coming back to Columbia better yet anywhere but Charleston (biased opinion but there is more to do) for a weekend is a bit of a let down - I digress- So my homie calls me Friday and is wondering whats going on and I told him of the only thing I knew of so I said I'm game and yes I drove cross town to check out the scene and lets just say I've seen more cars in a Dollar Store parking lot at 23:00 (think about what I just said)...so we decide to scavenge the town to see if there is any life remotely moving and needless to say we ended up back Uptown (Northeast side) at the place from a previous post I said was trippin...so I gets there and the crowd is respectable compared to where I just left and I get there and these fools charging and I was looking like BWAHAHAHAHAHA (I'm not above paying but geesh If I can see to the back that's not good) but my homie came and got me so needless to say It was a bit chilly inside *DENOTE - If you can feel the A/C in a club that is not a good thing* so anyway we sat down and tried to make it as ballerific as possible a bottle and a place to sit...I saw full sequin jumpers and quite a bit of + sizes in little outfits with little shoes (I think +'s are just at beautiful as any other size no discrimination). Now, I'm not talking bad about +'s I'm just saying make it work for you PLEASE the same +'s that despise petites are the same ones that attempt to look like petites I'm just saying. I know plenty of +'s that I think are absolutely beautiful and they embrace themselves and make it work. Ok enough enough before somebody takes it the wrong way (even tho I have clearly stated my opinion). Now moving on to day two....I had an opportunity to celebrate one of my good friends and former teammates post wedding celebration in which I can say I had a blast (No7 was on tilt hahahahah y'all who know me know what that means), then later on that night (late late and I don't get out much) my homies buzzed me up yet again, mind now I'm a married guy with two kids (translation - I don get out much; not that there is anything to do anyway) but I don't kick it often with my bros unless its the summer so I'm cool with that. So we go by the same establishments as the previous night and needless to say it was worst than the night before...so some of my other homies called as well and I end up kicking it with them til the wee hours and they are young single fellas with not a care in the world which I appreciated the atmosphere but we all were looking around like man this place SUCKS lol. I felt bad because I know me and my team have plans to make some things happen it is just taking some time. I feel like this Capital City could do soooooo much better in the social scene category but that's for another discussion.

In other news which I have talked about before but I find humorous AMAZON is coming hahahaha the tax breaks and stuff got worked out but some provisions are in place which I think make sense and I understand the issues of why we didn't want them to come but the economy here is terrible and therefore we need jobs and we need more people spending more money. See the catch 22 about this recession is people have to spend money to get "things" turned back around however people don't have money to discretionarily (made up word) spend so now what? I feel like if there was a social scene here with all the military and other implants they would be out on the town spending and at least providing something to this place...*exiting soapbox*.

In conclusion this past weekend was a waist to a certain degree other than catching up with friends...I have unfortunately fortunately been around the social scene since the age of 13 (clubs, parties, behind operations etc) and I know a few things that would work but I know my bros don't have much faith in the people. I have had trouble understanding this paradox that the people here want to be big city but have yet to be exposed and feel willing to pay for big city atmosphere hence they go to ATL or QC to enjoy themselves paying double/triple to enjoy themselves rather than indulge this city. I completely understand the rationale on both sides but hey I'm just one person that has a vision. Whelp I guess it will happen one day.....See its possible tho (closing statement) Those who recall the Memorial weekend party my team and I thru 4 years ago was a smash hit... So I kinda know what I'm talking about so we will see what the future holds, I had more to say but I will finish up next week....

Until...

Hmmm I tell you....LIFE IS GREAT

2011-05-23T08:17:00.000-07:00

Yeah I'm back on schedule yaddayadda ya....enough of the formalities...This week; End of the World, Chris Bosh, Westbrook, and Athletes coming out the closet. Also Relationship information and other randoms of randomstivity....

Lets begin....So last week according to ancient calendars and lore and other stuff the world was suppose to end on Saturday which I'm not disputing the literals of that statement but lets think about a few things....like recession, natural disasters, crime still rising, war, etc...am I making sense? See as far as I view things (which is all that matters if youre reading my blog) the world is taking a dive and much of it is by our own doing simply because we have ignored the Mos Hi and Mother Nature (one in the same) nah what I mean by that is that we are so embattled with ourselves (crime, corruption, greed, etc) that we totally forget that NATURAL DISASTERS are just that NATURAL and we have no control over it so if we (humans) figure out that to make this world better we have to control what we can control because at any min one to millions can be taken away by nature. Ok not to scare, offend, or be insensitive to life and death I'm just saying...I'm a simple guy so we need to all do right by each other (regardless of race, gender, ethnicity, religious beliefs) be kind to your neighbor and realize "the hardest thing about the business is minding your own" ~ Drake.

Ok now that I have you in deep freaking thought I will move on to the lighter side of life....SPORTS hahahaha my favorite, Ok so the Heat look like they wanna try and win this thing and Dallas doing they thing. Football still arguing over ultimately fans hard earned money. Baseball is still playing, hockey I honestly stop watching after the Caps got eliminated and NASCAR I have yet to really get (someone help me here). Track N Field is alive and well and well I like watching it. Ok now on to specifics...So there's this big thang out now about athletes coming out the closet....first whats the big deal? It is not like we didn't know this was going on for years and years so is this acceptance movement suppose to shed light or whats the purpose? I don't get what the big deal is and why it has to be a headline now if athletes were kingpins or something or needing to be visited by SVU then I get but sexual preference...really? Its not like the guys can keep that a secret ya know....dudes can spot tendencies which a number of them have but its life it's 2011 Land O Lakes. *Exiting soapbox*....so the media is giving Russell Westbrook a hard time I guess its that time of year and there needs to be a bad guy to keep sports alive until football returns...My opinion is yes he is a bit selfish and spotlight hungry but he is 22 so I get it plus I'm sure people in his camp are distracting him to a certain degree (agent included). The young man is extremely talented and has only played the point for 2 years in which he was not one coming out of UCLA. Two things are going to happen here 1. He will continue to try to be the face of the team and eventually leave and try to be the MAN somewhere else. 2. He will realize he will never be THAT guy and become solid and his numbers may decline but they will win. Just my thoughts but either way no matter what he says it is effecting him and is making his job that much more challenging (just let him play). Next Chris Bosh is having this coming out party (not exactly tied to the previous topic hahahaha) let me say this Bosh very skilled as a big man but I still don't put him in the SUPERSTAR category, He played on a very very bad team in Toronto (not that hard to put up numbers if you are good) next due to the fact that all the attention has been on Dwayne James he gets to shine kinda like Rondo with his emergence....Now don't get it twisted I'm not saying he cant play but geesh its ok for him to be a good player he is just not on the level as Dwayne James.

Quick tidbit The Terminator doing his number with the help and getting exposed I wonder if this will be like Eldrick Woods will it end the terminators career and credibility? I guess it was a no brainier when the lil boy walked in and then left and said "I'll be back" (Austrian voice) and that set off the alarms...Iownknow if that's what happened but if he has lil teeth and a gap I would be rotflmao. Ok ok ok no one is perfect that I know but one side of me is content that it wasn't another brown person messing up this time.

Relationship advice...well I will save that for questions....I can generally answer questions on what HE is thinking or trying and what SHE is or will be thinking (for newbie married couples).

OK THE END

Until...

HAHAHAHAHAHA and then some

2011-05-17T08:10:00.000-07:00

yeah yeah yeah its Tuesday and I'm just posting, hey I've been busy and I'm still stuck at 8 subscribers so mane if you reading this tell somebody RATNAH! Ok this week I will talk about FACEBOOK, Recession gas, and some sports stuff.

Ok quickly lemme say if you are new to this blog or a current reader when you seen what appears to be mispelt <---- words please realize that I am a very bright guy with a unique sense of humor and I simply type things the way most people (particularly southerners) say them phonetically. So if you get stumped just take a deep bref and think about how you pronounce and enunciate words ok....now on to other stuff.

Facebook is slowly but surely making millions of dollars at the expense of becoming my -_________- (or myspace), now I must say I am a bit disturbed because many people left my -________- because of too much advertising and other ridiculous games and gimmicks to post on peoples page. Now I am not against entrepreneurs utilizing it to get information out I think it is a useful tool however, all the spam that is being inundated on peoples pages, post of music videos or pics of Jordan's and other knock offs is getting a bit overwhelming...Now I understand hey making money but at the expense of being outta style in 3 more years well...all I can do is smh. Twitter my newest gem will eventually fall victim as well so I truly believe we will all go back (those of us in our late tweenies early thirties and up) to msn, google, yahoo and other messaging services that were so popular in the late ninenees and two thousands. I remember when you would catch up with people and or meet new folks in msn chat rooms....the ebony room hahahaha stuff like that....

In other news gas is starting to get like the prices of produce per pound....and I can't figure out for the life of me how petrol stations can charge one price for cash and another for credit/debit? Either this is pure greed or we are simply missing that there is a fluctuation of .10 and therefore letting me know petrol shouldn't be as high as it is. I hate riding down the road and seeing the big sign that displays gas a "the cheapest price in town" or so I think then I get to the pump and swipe and the price jumps up ten cents.....FALSE ADVERTISING I'm suing (lol j/k...but maybe)....hell with buying a Powerball I need that dolluh to get a 1/3 extra to the tank ya nahmeen son (new york voice).

And so the NBA final four is set.....Memphis didn't make it thru but I can tell you their bandwagon got full (I must admit I was pulling for them and the city). OKC and Dallas and Dewayne James vs DRose an nem...I happen to to like the new power shift gives the Association a new feel and fills up seats on other bandwagons. As y'all know I don't have a NBA team I just like watching good exciting basketball...I digress. So Russell Westbrook seems to have figured out that his star can shine very bright if he plays Rondo-esque with a better j.....well I hope he figures that out b/c he sees what happens if he tries to still the Light.....#backlash. DRose an nem put on a show against Dewayne James and friends, out played out hustled and out posterized. Dewayne James went back to one on one and err time they do that they show that they will not beat anybody unless they shoot the lights out which bof are streaky shooters. The supporting cast better show up or this series will be shawt. If they go down 2-0 or 3-0 mock my words and I have said this all year that Pat Riley will intervene and take over a la Van Gundy in 06 (I think he secretly cant wait specially now that Phil is gone). Welp that for sports news and simply the fact that my fanguz are tired from typing....

Until...

The Lakers, Mothers Day, and other stuff....

2011-05-09T08:07:00.000-07:00

Hahahahaha I know I'm catching the 3 readers I have off guard but hey until I have 100 subscribers that expect to read this on a specific day I can be a bit spontaneous. Ok so last week we saw some interesting things with the NBA Playoffs. It was also Mother's Day weekend....

Let us begin SHALL WE...I wanted to start with D Rose and his over publicized League MVP speech (maybe over publicized is the wrong term), well what I'm saying is that I applaud the media outlets for showing this well deserved honor and the eloquence in which this young 22 year old displayed in accepting the award. In the most humbling and emotional manner he showed his gratitude for the privilege of being able to make a living playing a SPORT and he put it in perspective when thanking his mother. Looking back on all her hard work and sacrifices pushes him through the days when he doesn't feel like "playing" (for those that have not played sports it is very very very very demanding and it consumes your life and some times like anything else you just don wanna). My respect level for this young fella is at the peak because he always seems genuinely humble and thankful for his gift. In other Playoff news the Los Kobes (I mean the L.A. Lakers) got their ass cut by the finally over the hump Mavericks and I can say I was pleased with the results and especially found humor in the going away present they gave Phil and Kobe. Don't get it mixed up I'm not a Laker hater but Kobe although arguably the best or one of the best players to ever play is not high on my totem pole that the aforementioned D Rose is. The overt arrogance and quest for greatness at any cost has a bit disturbing, maybe he is just "misunderstood" (obvious sarcasm and cliche') but the man (although a vet so I completely understand) didn't practice with the team all year yet he is the first the throw people under the bus if they don't play up to HIS standard (listen to his interviews prior to Bynums trustgate comments). Nah speaking of HIS standard I truly think (I understand the sub-language that basketball players speak in interviews) that Bynum let the cat out the bag with his comments...TRUST ISSUES, hell with the team I think he was directly saying that Kobe was in PMS mode and was throwing folk under the bus in house. Bynum is a bit of a goofball anyway but I understood it....(he, blake, odom, and/or barnes will all be gone next year and I could see D Howard coming there a la Shaq). Quickly: Rondo separates is elbow and comes back out there to play (now being a separated shoulder survivor lol) was quite a display of "manning up". I have done that (read the previous parenthesis) and the next day soreness, pain, stiffness cant imagine in the elbow. Now I have given props I will say when KG, Ray Ray, and Paul retire he will either need to go to another team or the C's will go back to the doldrums.

Nah...on to the other subject briefly. I want to send a Happy (tho belated) Mother's Day to all the Mothers out there and single fathers who get the job done.

Y'all be good and if you have read this far down and actually like reading please refer a friend and or comment.

Until...

What a week....

2011-05-04T14:06:00.000-07:00

This mid week thang might start happening more often so anyways lets talk about whats going on this week...The NBA playoffs have a vintage feel with all the hard fouls and stuff...The draft came and went...and Our Commander and Chief announced some shocking but celebratory news. Amazon bails....and I'm on this Dave Ramsey kick.

Lets begin ....shall we? So we will skip directly to the NFL draft and how awkward it was but still the NFL draft, Cam "Payday" Newton went numero uno to the Panthers and my thoughts well...at least for 6 games the stadium should be energized. I think the kid has charisma and will be an attraction early then after some L's the luster will corrode. His dad was there and lets just say.....something is still fishy. Moving on along Mark Ingram who was glowing and shinning when it first started, started to look a bit pissed off his name wasn't being called....then he got his call (which I will say I'm happy for the young man) and The "Mother ship" as Dan Patrick calls it decides that they will blindside him with a email from his pops. Nah did anyone else wonder why the email didn't make it to his blackberry, iphon4, or droid? Ok moving on so he broke down (rightfully so) and the Ship got their moment. A whole bunch of other picks came and went and the recurring theme I was hearing was about kids with "CHARACTER ISSUES" nah I'm a bit thrown that this particular draft had soooooo many perceived knuckle heads. End of the day it seems no matter what talent will override the potential trouble awaiting. I will say this I hope the future classes, high school kids,etc learn that everything you do, say, tweet, facebook whatever could cost you A LOT OF MONEY so keep that in mind. Moving along....Our President made a startling yet historical announcement that Bin Laden had been found and killed, now as much as I understand the importance of this my somewhat jaded view on politics is how does this affect our deficit going forward and economy also does this mean our troops still have to be fighting everywhere? I know the risk are still very high and thinks aren't automatically resolved but that was just my first impression once hearing the news. I'm still amazed tho that we celebrated and rallied together yet we still can't seem to solve the violent problems we have here at home. Now yall know I don't stay on politics too long I just wanted to touch on that point. As most South Carolinians know AMAZON was trying to come to SC and build a plant and operate for free...I understand both problems of hell the deal was a bit off in the first place (wonder if that was on purpose....will explain later maybe) and second I'm sad that one of the highest unemployed states wont get the 3k jobs that it could have brought over the next 3years. I am so inspired to try to make things happen and help people in my state but lack the capital and complete resources to do something but I will....one day. I believe....Hebrew 11:1.

Nah that segways into the Dave Ramsey kick I'm on....Dave's Total Money Makeover book has be vexed and motivated. I wish I would have had this book in my hand when it was published 2003 I believe. I would be doing very very very well and be alot wiser. However the trials and lessons I have learned have helped give this book more substance on my new quest. I will "live like no one else, so I can live like no one else" those of you who know that or understand it feel me. I recommend it to everyone especially these young athletes out here in the world. I digress....so I have some important milestones coming up in the near future that will get my full makeover process started....as well as the thought of going back to school to get my green jacket hahahaha. Well I will keep it short on that note and will tell everyone to keep saying your prayers and continue to help those in need......blessings are powerful things.

Until....

Mane How Bout that....

2011-04-28T07:29:00.000-07:00

Ok lets get past the formalities yes I"M LATE AGAIN....but obviously no one is paying attention so I can afford to do so. Nah this past week and well this week in general, let's see where do I begin. I started this new Dave Ramsey kick and I'm focused on being supremely wealthy and I have the foundation to get it done. Nah lets dive into this a lil bit because I have obviously recognized my flaws and faults as being a brown person in this society and why we/us can't seem to learn the rules to financial freedoms and why we succumb to the endless perils of being yes BROWN. Our main issues are the overcoming of our past (historically speaking we have never really HAD) what I mean by this is most of us aren't use to having so when we get a lil bit we SPLURGE (for my beige readers we over spend and buy frivolously). Nah the problem with "SPLURGING" is half the time it is at the expense of something usually a bill or two. We would rather have the new iphone 4G than get caught up the that very bill and stick with the Moto Razr <-- obvious joke. My point is that we have yet to truly learn how to live and sacrafice now and live once we are fully able to. We "live in the moment" carpe diem (I took Latin 2 years in hs) which is a slogan most of us only know about thru movies or when some celebrity says it. I digress....we are for the most part a culture fueled by "STUFF" as a sign of prosperity, we look the part very well to show that yes we do have the ability to buy things however, that only generally impresses our peers who for the most part are doing the same exact thing. Nah I have had the revelation while visiting some family in Ft. Mill, SC where there are some very nice developments and housing and what I noticed (my fam aren't the Joneses and aren't trying to keep up with them how every they are staying up with the Johansons lol) was that the large nice neighborhoods (big ole houses) had a Honda Pilot, Chevy Silverado, and a 03' Camry in the driveway or a '00 FourRunner and a '04 Tahoe, occasionally I would see a Lexus ES or something like that (status bang for buck kinda cars) now I drive further down (hypothetically) and I see typical 'hoods' and I see the Escalade, 300 (Bentley kit), Suburban on '28s, etc yard is beat down, the goal in the front yard is on its last 5 fga's and in the back is a cage for the pits. Now yes I'm largely stereotyping and/or over exaggerating a bit however I'm making my point so listen... We do things like that (I'm guilty been there done that) and now I'm slowly learning that sacrificing all that to be able to live in a lil while will be nice (boys school paid for, and trust funds building). Ok exiting soapbox and moving on...

Nah I mentioned visiting family in Ft. Mill which actually was a birthday Carowinds day for my lil cousin and son so we at the park for what seemed like an eternity....Carowinds makes me think if Wal Mart opened an amusement park it would be Carowinds long lines. I thought about talking to my frat brother who is a comedian about this, have you ever seen a Thug at an amusement park....this is probably one of the most "amusing" (pun intended) phenomenons I have ever seen, they are at the park trying to look hard but at the same time trying to have fun (be a kid again). Wife beaters, big shorts, ball cap, fresh sneakers, and tatted up toting a bear or a big tube that the lemonade comes in hahahahaha Iownknow about you but I found that to be hilarious (i will discuss further later). On the other side of the spectrum watching the "Necks" are just as funny because its like they treat Carowinds like they are at Vegas............................................(needed a minute to stop laughing so hard internally). If you haven't notice I like observing people and dynamics that overall make life beautiful yet instantaneously funny. I keep telling myself to do a broadcast via YouTube so when I see things I can make these words come to life....YALL GOTTA STAY ON ME ABOUT THAT.

In other news I recently discovered that our Govenors' husband is referred to as the First Gentleman, I snickered (yes I said snickered) because I was always curious to what that name would be and as I watched the morning news I received clarification. Well as we all know I can be long winded so I will exit stage left now and make sure to say that SEND YOUR PRAYERS TO EVERYONE AROUND THE WORLD, especially the recent storms that have ripped thru the southeast, the earthquakes folks in Japan and Haiti and all those who have lost someone they loved recently. We have to right the ship and support our brothers and sisters and wake up everyday and be thankful and spread joy and happiness to thy neighbor.

Until....

testing testing 1,2,3

2011-04-18T13:57:00.001-07:00

Ok so back to what I was tombout. I have been using droid voice recognition all day so for give the short post before. So the NBA playoffs have begun and yes I will say if you are a sports fan preferrably nba then your spouse/significant other should understand no request are permitted for the next four weeks. In other news it looks like a new legislation will be passed saying that voters must present ID to vote, hmmmm how can I address this without coming off politically wrong....that method was banned in the early part of the century.

Moving along I partook in a grown up weekend (those with kids will lol when I finish), I took my sons to their cousin bday party then kicked it at my cousins house for the remainder of the evening (spirits, food, and plenty of lol) yeah that's a GROWN UP WEEKEND hahahahaha.

Also make sure you send your prayers out to those families that were rocked by tornadoes this past week. With Mother Nature having her own pms issues you would figure we (humans) would be less inclined to destroy, kill, fight, degrade, and politcally dismantle each other. Im just saying....priorities are a bit off....so I will end with this PEACE, LOVE, & LAUGHTER

Until...

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yet another week

2011-04-18T13:12:00.001-07:00

And so this week has begun not much more entertaining than last week however the nba playoffs has started so that's a good good beginning.

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Iownknow....

2011-04-14T11:44:00.000-07:00

OK I know I'm super late (usually a Monday thang) but hell who knows who actually takes time to read this any way so oh well. Last week wasnt much of anything as far as news but this week has been somewhat entertaining at least in the entertainment world. SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Manny retires, Barry beats the rap, and Kobe gets fines 100k for his "homophobic slur". Amazon is trying to make a come up in SC, VP sleeps thru presidents speech, and a number of other thangs. Where do I begin....lets just start with Manny hahahah he bounces retires and goes to Spain after failing another drug test. Lets just say the man has made over 170M in his career and all they tombout is if he goes to the HOF, mmmmmm (sour face expression) he don't care, WHO"S NEXT! Barry Bonds has proved once again that Dollars talk and what they excrete walks hahaha NEXT! KOBE gets caught on t.v. on one of his many MANY tirades the TV catches the closure of his verbal assault. What I am happy about is he didn't use the ole cliche' "I'm human....dadadadaada" he was real about it and yes I think it has been blown completely out of proportion but then again IT WAS ON NATIONAL TV. Whats is most interesting is that it cost him 100k YIKES, but as the folks on Sports Center calculated that is roughly 30 min of his salary (recession, 100k could help many families in need). I digress man if players started getting fined for stuff like that they need to fine Bosh for spitting while getting hype in a game (like the Glenn Davis drooling thing).

In other news Amazon is trying to come to Metropolitainville, USA and got free land, and some breaks but they want the whole pie. It's interesting when companies do that, isn't more important to break into this market and provide 2,500 jobs for a recession hard hit state? Maybe I'm just a economic softy.

Like I said last week didn't have much substance that I could go into a long drawn out soliloquy about. If you read this blog subscribe and join...I'm geesh it wont hurt. hahahahah

Until...

Hmmmm where and what

2011-04-04T08:59:00.000-07:00

Yes yes we are at another Monday and although this past week wasn't as eventful as the last it still had its "things". Obviously our Governor could be discussed every week so for the sake of entertaining I will not do so. Lets just say the more I read and learn about politics the more I realized my preconceived notions were right and I get a bit frustrated. I digress so the big debates last week were about the FINAL FOUR and kids staying in school not staying in school etc., plus a topic that I will spend some time on this particular blog post.

A group of married men (one newlywed) and myself of course had "the" discussion with the grasshopper about the INSTITUTION. Now mind this is a group of guys all expressing their thoughts so about the changes, the responsibilities, the "submission" hahahah. Now we all realized that there are changes that come with "signing nem papers" (women may argue this but that's fine this is from a male perspective so) and the consensus was that the fact of "submission" (take the term on the surface not literally) comes more from us than it does women. Men generally submit for the simple fact of not having to debate, be challenged, or argue about mainly what appears as trivial (pick your battles). Mind this group of gentlemen had never had this talk we just gravitated to it. All of us had our stories of "giving in" and learning how to always be wrong. The Grasshopper in this conversation asked several "grasshopper-like" questions in which each guy gave a scenario but all have virtually the same response. Questions such as: 1. What about sex 2. Home projects 3. Going out 4. Consequences. Each guy appropriately responded based on personal experience but each had the same results; 1. will decrease with a sharp decline 2. will increase 3. will decrease for the sake of "why do you need to go out" 4. Ultimately if you challenge any of the above questions you will be met with stiff resistance and ultimately will just be mad and stay home. If you are a married man reading this I know you are laughing because you recognize where you fall in. Now by no means were we discouraging the grasshopper about the INSTITUTION we were simply helping him properly identify what the hell he has gotten himself into. Now many of the "council" (I will refer to this group for the remainder) all previously dated and courted for years prior to jumping broom and each said that once it became law binding all the previous +/- were erased from the hard drive and you have a new slate to work from which is notably dominated by the spouse. OK for virgin readers I know this may all sound negative but it truly isn't it is just a way for some grasshoppers to understand and conceptualize what they are embarking on. In this day in age where the divorce rate is astounding we can look at the dynamics and variables of why it is what it is (save for later discussion). Without really understanding the dynamics and variables you will slowly realized the INSTITUTION is less about you and more about what your suppose to do (hahahaha). "Grasshopper" quick rebutle was that "things are cool right now but I do foresee somethings already", we all laughed in unison because he is still reveling in the "newness" but reality will slowly be implemented so that he starts to understand that all the questions he initially asked will all reveal the answers we all responded with. Now there are some dudes out there that will say "none of those apply" and I will respond with a. do you have children (likely not) b. if you call the shots, more than likely she is complaining to her girlfriend you just don't know it c. newlywed. The INSTITUTION is not a science or for the lack of better terms about love, it is indeed a partnership based on the idea of cooperation, compromise, care, respect, and last but not least the L word. Through several conversations (across all ethnic fronts) the thoughts and responses yield the same results. As we wished grasshopper the best (as we were being summoned) we also told grasshopper to toss the notion of what it once was out the window because that will change. Regardless if you find the "right" person the principals of matrimony are different and plain and simple. Women (many) have ambitions and dreams of the INSTITUTION and the overall idea of how it is going to be. Men (most) generally "submit" to the INSTITUTION and the stability of it. The socialism of it is what makes or breaks it, are we on the same page, are we growing together, are we both fueled by the initial fire that led us here? Those are the questions people ask and ultimately become the blueprint of the INSTITUTION.

OK I have rambled long enough if you have responses and/or questions feel free to input or email me I will be more than obliged to respond. This is merely my thoughts and opinions so....

Until...

An Eventful week...I tellyuh: A MUST READ!

2011-03-28T07:49:00.000-07:00

Greetings, and so another week has passed and I find myself back on my blog having even more experiences than the week before.Where shall I start...hmmmm well lets go with something on last week and the Board of Trustees beef between two women. So the "significant" woman held a conference and said that she would give more money and told the State (a la the Woman in charge) to match it, in my translation she is emphatically saying "nah b%&*$, put up or shut up". Ok ok...on to other news SPORTS why don't we and so the state flagship schools bball program loses 4 players in 12 mos...ok obviously I'm not in a position to express what I want however I wanted to dive into the dynamics of these transactions, now being a former student athlete my interest is always vested into the players and the program. Don't get it misconstrued I completely understand the business of college athletics and the prevalent challenge of education vs athletics (been there done that). I digress I personally don't like the moves because ultimately these type of decisions (attrition) effects both parties, you ask how? Well lets look at it most kids (98%) come to school with ambitions and dreams of playing professionally (school in most cases is secondary) so by making these transitions you ultimately lose a year and a real sense of where your "dream" is headed. Now on the flip side it hurts the institution because the perceived idea is to educate the athletes and W/L are some what subjective. The reality of the matter is transitions happen to every school across the country however this happened all at once (which is like finding a Lebron James that wants to come to school = rare). In the realm of public opinion none of this looks good for the coaches, players, or the program. So in my current capacity I continue to try to educate these kids on the business of sports. See many of them figure no responsibilities (which is a joke your responsibility is to get good grades and WIN!) and they also figure they aren't getting paid so they can't conceptualize (at 17-20 yrs old) that this indeed is a job. So what I tell them is you have to really understand and bring this thing to reality (you essentially get paid 100k/yr - housing, books, per diem, clothes/gear, meal plan). Now once these "kids" understand that college sports like being a regular student is in place to prepare you for the NEXT LEVEL in which being a Pro means you manage your money, your bills, you day to day activities so at this time you must conduct yourself like what you want to eventually be. In other words if you want to be a pro....act like one (study film, extra practice, play the social and media role). So those are my surface feelings because I truly wish I had someone during my experience to take me under their wing and say look "screw all that other stuff" if you want to make it this is how you do it (and I don't mean the general yada yada you get from coaches). I mean someone sitting me down on a regular and saying YOU have unbelievable potential however, in order for you to make it you will have to A, B, and C. I know you want to party, meet girls, and blah blah all the time you spend doing that instead of honing your craft and learning the "GAME" (on and off court to position oneself) to do what you say you want and that is to make it to NBA, NFL, MLB, NHL, or what have you, no one did that so I feel like it is my duty to impart that information (not saying that no one is doing it I'm just saying). For the sake of time I will leave the rest of my thoughts for questions if anyone has any.

Nah to other news...I yes ME went out this past weekend with my best friend, frat brother, and business partner. Now we simply went to a WANG and DRANK establishment (I will not market or anyone else hahaha) and did some catching up and to discuss our future ventures. Of course we have a wonderful blueprint in line that we started 4 years ago however in the capital city "metropolitan" city at that with a mediocre and not to stretch the imagination seemingly pathetic social night life for adults (ages 25+). Now I understand that this "city" is a college town which I whole hardily enjoyed when I was 18-22. Nah at 31 I can't pull myself to go to those same establishments so I'm regulated to WANG and DRANK places (during basketball, football seasons) which is ok. I digress...we have analyzed this market for quite sometime now and have our thoughts on how to boost the social and economic landscape without changing the identity of the place (its the south - I will not elaborate), so we had a novel idea since we rarely get together to really hang out anymore to try to take our talents to a "night spot" (which will remain nameless even after what I will say). So we get to the place and (with it being one of 3 places you can really go in the CAPITAL) and get checked at the door for our attire, mind nah (chas. voice) we are both casually dressed (jeans, button down shirts, and casual sneakers) and the Security guy says y'all shoes look like sneakers (Good observation sir because they are but they aren't bball shoes or willies) and proceeds to tell us we cannot get in. At this moment another guy walks up (long tee shirt, bubble vest, baggy cargo pants, and some prada sneakers) and is let in with no hesitation or questioning. So my outspoken frat brother says "man this guy just walked in and those look like sneakers" and the security refers to the doorman and the door man says "nah those are BOOTS". I said sir those are prada sneakers (which are casual) and I lift up my pant leg and said these are no different (I'm not a materialistic person but I do like nice things I had on my Gucci casual sneaks). Yet we still couldn't get in, so next walks up two guys with baggy jeans, polo style shirts with thermal shirts underneath and ball caps) now mind they had on Lugz or Timberlands boots but if you trying to had a "standard" it should apply equally. So after standing there having discussion about this foolishness we decided to leave which didn't bother me that I was going home it was the PRINCIPALITIES of the matter. Nah I will not name the place because at the end of the day they are in the business of making money and hey who am I to knock the hustle. My lingering point is that there is no standard (and as other places shut down) due to compromising the "standard" for the dollar (many of them hearing consultation from us) learn that when we say the life span is 24-30mos. we mean just that (and it never fails). So as I exit my soapbox I have come to the realization that when my partner and I attempt to do things and continuously get profiled i.e. people we talk to about buildings say "We are not interested in this place being a club" we tell them you haven't even let us speak first and you are already categorizing us. We don't want a club either (too much of a headache and if we did people wont' appreciate what we would give -just my thought) we are trying to be trendsetting entrepreneurs. I digress....so my point is we are slowly but surely becoming more disappointed in the development of the "CAPITAL" and its vision of socio-economic diversity and or willing to try to grow and become the fruitful place it has the potential to be as we have seen other cities go from sub par to BOOMING (ATL - over 20 yrs and Char. - over 10 years) as we still lag behind content with being where we are not willing to take a chance. I do applaud our Mayor for seeing the potential and trying to create a buzz (he has been a great mentor to us). Maybe we are just disgruntled visionaries who have had great success with providing quality events from time to time. I don't know maybe I'm just venting...and not trying hard enough but the obstacles and folks looking thru the peephole and dead bolting doors that we can open is a bit frustrating. ANYWAY....that's enough of my rant yall have a good day (IF YOU EVEN READ THIS FAR hahahahahaha)

Until....

Random Rambling....Good Reader tho

2011-03-21T06:51:00.000-07:00

Ok, so it's yet another Monday and other than March Madness and the Disaster in Japan I have know clue what it goings on in the world. On one note March Madness is one of the single best times of the year and having experienced a March run myself (NIT, not quite the tourney but hey) I know how exciting it is. On the other hand the disaster in Japan is very very sad, I am hoping one day the world will figure out that life is too precious to fight and bicker of money, power, and respect to the point that it causes lives to be taken. Natural disasters are fearful enough but I'm just a simple thinking guy. SOOOOOOOO in other news I am curious to know more about the dynamics of relationships? As I have seen many of my close friends enter and exit the institution of marriage like its college. What exactly is this "institution"? As a married person I have a variety of opinions that have been somewhat diluted by the fact that I grew up in a single parent home and all my friends grew up with two people in the house who subsequently half of those ended up separating. So despite being a bit jaded, I need other opinions or thoughts. I get to hear guys vent and complain as well as women at the same rate. Reasons range from infidelity, not getting sex enough, to simply just not "feeling" the person any longer. I mean with the "institution" how do you properly evaluate who your spouse, gf/bf, "friend" will be?

This post is about random things so I will jump topics completely wanted to make sure I sent a special R.I.P. to Nate Dogg (REGULATORS......MOUNT UP). We lost a legend and I mean that in all honesty because Nate Dogg brought a new feel to hip-hop music (which I still don't think anyone can truly sing the end of Regulators) ".....to the Eastsiiiiiiiiiiiiiiide Moteeeeeeeel (Staccato).

Nah y'all know I don't get into politics at all really but I just so happen to see "our" Governor remove a very very very very influential women off the BOT for some "dude" who gave $2,500 to her campaign....(expletive) The influential woman has given MILLIONS to the flagship university and done many things in this ever slow developing city we call the capital. Now after this removal (which I personally think, is you can't have someone with more influence and money than you be on the board when you are the Gov. #battleestrogen) the Governor reappoints the influential woman hahahahahahahahahha (learning real quick about the G.O.B. system).

Ok I'm done with sports, relationships, and politics to say none other than it's Monday y'all have a good week.

Until....

Something is Fundamentally Wrong Here...

2011-03-14T11:59:00.000-07:00

OK so check this out, I typed this ever long sermon on the NFL labor issues and my views about it plus how I came to that thought by being a former pro player overseas and GUESS WHAT! The damn thing got erased...smh, so I am left with starting over in which I can't remember all of that so I will try to paraphrase. I see a issue with NFL "labor" problems...that they have the ability to hold out and go thru this whole thing yet Teachers across the country and schools around the country (mainly SC) are failing and we are BILLIONS of dollars in debt as a country. Now I'm not saying players don't deserve getting paid but this is utterly ridiculous right now considering many of the teams (Detroit, New Orleans, Washington and a few others) are in cities that are completely struggling. I find that very odd but I do understand. Now my point about being an overseas "baller" is that no matter how well you play "things" come up and either you get paid late or don't get paid at all (foreign and/or domestic players). See if athletes overseas say man I'm not playing cause they aren't paying me (period) or paying enough then the team kindly hands them a plane ticket. Now some can look at it as I'm just a angry basketball player that didn't make it to the next level but hey I don't care this is my blog so I am going to say it like people see it. We are struggling as a economy and ultimately the people that pay for these salaries etc. are the "struggling" fans that use sports as their therapy against the day to day menucha. Sad part is the people that handle day to day operations, clerical, and other office duties (marketing, media personnel, and other "small timers") will be out of work and don't make "millions" of dollars. To me that is a fundamental problem why should they have to pay for owners inability to manage the dynamics of Winning and Losing (which is what it boils down to when you look at why they pay these astronomical salaries). I will say simply that our economic priorities are a bit off....My idea would be that these millionaires adopt some families (tax right off), I'm not saying support a whole neighborhood but how many of them blow hundreds of thousands on "stuff"? What if an millionaire athlete took 500k and spread it out to 50 different families maybe (10k or more) to help pay off credit cards, or to simply help pay a bill or two. Now I know the argument is yeah they are doing that for their families (which I applaud) but seriously family can be the biggest debt consumption out there. I'm just saying an athlete that has made 5-10M a year for the last 5-10 years (strictly guessing) Should be able to help the Factory worker who is being hit by gas prices, college tuition's, day to day bills, yet is wearing the "stars" jersey on game day and spends what "change" he has left over to get his sports relief. I get it, I get it..."Its my money I earned it" however people are out here struggling beyond belief yet some athletes won't work because they feel like they need a few more Million....If you don't see my point that's fine (ask me I will try to clarify better). Anywho I just feel bad that Millionaires don't donate like 5% of their salary to families in need, or to help natural disaster victims or something like that....Can you imagine if you take 5% of every pro athlete (or some "celebrity" in U.S. where money is guaranteed) salary and put it back into schools, economic development, and or to help cities grow, and receive some sort of extra tax break.

Which I will say its sad, with all the pro's that have come from my state schools and cities are soooooooo far behind and there is know economic empowerment or development from athletes at least "trying". On the other hand there are several things I can understand (politics) that make it virtually impossible for them to come here and try to help. Either way I get what the "dispute" is about, I have several close friends who are employed by "The League". I guess what my issues are are that that's the BIG talk (all over the news and media) as if the players will all have to file for chapter 13 because they can't afford the car note on the Accord, the 1k mortgage, the $95 phone bill, etc. Rarely do we see the BIG talk being about what some athletes are doing. Overall I think this "Labor Dispute" is tarnishing pro sports. Owners should have long set a concrete limit on what players would get paid (what are they gonna do...now play? where would they go?). Now I think you may see college sports become more relevant again...

CIAA....I feel like I'm getting old

2011-03-07T07:03:00.000-08:00

And so yet another CIAA weekend concludes and I have yet to experience the "Hoopla" on the weekends festivities. As I hear mixed reviews from the veterans and the excitement of the neophytes. The veterans some say "man it's not all what people talk about" or "its strait" (which is not an endearing sign). All the neo's have marked this off on their calendars and took days off to partake in the eventful weekend and the novel idea of "Day Parties". However every year at this juncture I find myself saying....I'm going to go then upon the arrival of the week I say man I'm too damn old, too damn married, and too damn much in fatherhood, funny yes but its the truth. I feel like I will look like a Dad sitting there around about bunch of "grasshoppers" looking at them and picking out the one's that will have that "I'm not drinking" anymore prayer tomorrow morning. I don't want to be that cat that's sitting there looking like I'm hunting some innocent young calf hahahahaha nor getting the screw face by some chic my age because she feel like she to grown to be looked at (why the hell are you here fuh?). The paradox of social parity makes attending this weekends attendance for me even more challenging. Like I somehow see CIAA as the ultimate party weekend (a la BLUE N WHITE) of my early 20's when I had no responsibilities and could "wild out". Now I envision myself standing at a bar or sitting down looking at the over abundance of dudes tryna to holla at some gull who has forgotten who she really is because she reinvented herself for CIAA or the other cats balling out of control swiping they "debt" cards to show that they got it when in most cases they have overdraft protection (meaning they can swipe all they want and the bank will cover it but they account will be negative). Then there is the thought of spending time to spend time to wait in line and then get to the door and find out that I have to sign over my mortgage to get in. Then when I do get in the idea or even the concept of getting a respectable drank will take me just as long as it did when I got in. The artful marketing strategy to have "celebrities" come and sit somewhere so far out of reach that its' pointless to even go to THAT particular party. Besides I am not impressed nor drawn to people who are "celebrities" I actually would rather go the opposite direction of them (that's a whole other issue)....I digress, so at the end of endings I find myself yet again at home chilling feeling comfortable although I know a sociable person like myself would probably have some enjoyment by going I don't feel any inclination to make an effort to go. I feel kinda old because I would certainly rather call my homies up and go to Wild Wangs, Ale House, or some other bar that has "wangs" and draft beer. Maybe it's the signs of the times now that I am in my 30's.

Strange thing is as a event planner and host of a pretty successful Homecoming Weekend I try to make sure my patrons don't feel like they are just a number and that everyone no matter their age feels like they can get something out of it. Although no major event will please everyone I think we do a solid job at trying to adhere to feedback to correct what we missed, because we want each of our people to know we are thoughtful enough to try to change their experience. I don't think you will get a questionnaire after CIAA but hey when it reaches that level I guess who cares cause the same people that complain about the prices, parties, and errthang else will certainly be back next year. With that being said.....I guess I need to go before I hit 35 at least hahahahah to say I went once.

What A Hiatus....

2011-02-28T07:10:00.001-08:00

I know I am slack as hell and long over due for the 5 people that actually use to pay attention to this blog....but hey I'm back and a bit more enthused than I was from the last time I posted. Whats new since I last had anything of value to talk about? Well I realized that I have an instrinsict gift of gab and a unique understanding of the Mars vs Venus game. I also created a very humorous yet factual blog on facebook affectionately called the "HiM Laws, the guide to the Male Psyche" which in turn turned into a book yes I make a small manual to understand the do's and don'ts for fellas and for women to hopefully better understand our process of thinking and how simple yet astoundingly difficult we men can be. This book also spawned my blog talk show that I use to host at 11pm on Thursdays (did that for about 10 months) but I slowly realized I was talking to my damn self so and nixed that too. The book is still in rotation and I am working on volume II (lulu.com and search The Official HiM Laws and buy it). Yes I completely understand that being somewhat of a contradictory statement however it makes perfect sense. See we men are very simple in our methods and actions and the difficulty becomes when women try to decipher or figure out an alternative meaning when our male brains to process any deeper than what we say. Now I will say this LADIES please pay attention to this statement: A MAN WILL SHOW YOU THE ALTERNATIVE MEANING IN HIS ACTION, translation don't study "his" words study what "his" actions are because all the "STUFF" and "LIL THINGS" you require and are in search for he is probably doing however because he doesn't verbalize it it gets overlooked.

I digress so anyway that's what I have been up to and I assure you I will be more consistent and it won't be errday which I was trying before (I have a life and a job and a family) so it will be more like once a week.

Been Awhile

2009-05-13T05:58:00.000-07:00

Greetings,.....ok ok ok I know yall are like see I knew this wouldn't last but hey needed time to find stuff to talk about. Now my question here is what draws a women to a certain man? Like he doesn't have to be the best looking guy in the pack....he may display some "swaggar" and yall know I don't use the term losely (everybody and they moma think they have swag now). I believe we talked about swaggar earlier before Soulja Boy made it cool. I digress......so is it his smile (same for women too, b/c fellas will overlook the obvious pretty to find the beautiful rose in the concrete) the way he dresses, his eyes, his confidence, or maybe all of the above. Now its a known fact when folks roll in packs there is always that one person that gets all the attention but then there is that one person that gets a lot of unwatched attention. Do women have the "good relations" meter in their heads? Can yall guess or figure who puts it down better than the rest? Is it the dude that doesnt say much or the one with the slight bulge.......LMAO! How do women spot this dude? And when you spot him do you already know whats going to go down....do you inspect him and his situation then assess the +/- factor what the benefits and negetives are? Are there situations where a cat has a sexual hold on you where no matter the time apart or whether or not yall have done anything at all........can he/she spark that thought in your mind? That will be the next subject sexually incarcerated.......

Until..................

The Man Woman Game

2009-04-08T07:04:00.000-07:00

Greetings, so with the launch of Steve Harvey's book, women now feel like they have this huge upper hand on things but, I have been shelving out this advice for a long time (ok I understand I am not famous ) but now its like this emense sense of power in the "GAME" now that women have. I am not saying the book isn't good what I am saying is no matter what the "GAME" will continue to evolve men are great at deciphering things and then manipulating them. Now as far as execution we are dumb in that category but we can manage to alter the program. Now women on the other hand are the masters of controling the situation, its always a balance and shift of power/advantage. If there is any leverage to give then one party will hold it on the other, the reason why they call it the "GAME". Now I like to think of myself as having been proficient in the GAME, to a point now I don't mind giving up some of its secrets b/c I'm out of it. Women all I would like to say is if you don't think men know this book is out then you are being nieve. I will say this no matter what be very selective with your words even after reading this book b/c the predator (men) perfect the techniques on hunting the prey (women) you have to observe all the predators that are attacking you b/c when you focus you energy on one the other is on your hind picking your weaknesses out so be careful how much you reveal and what kind of standards you keep b/c a. you will run all predators off i.e. - lonely ass hell or b. you will open the gates to the jakels and they will eat you alive i.e. - more drama and no results.

Just some tidbits.........if you have senario's let me know I will be happy to share my insight lol

Until................

What you want, what you need, what you are looking for, what you gonna find

2009-03-24T06:55:00.000-07:00

Greetings.....ok now lets analyze some things here about the man and women relationship I am curious if women know when a man has good qualities and can't get right or he just aint right? Also have women not figured out if you lead the "friendship" with sex then we as men have established what kind of relationship it is? Ladies stop saying "i'm cool with it, I understand" you don't understand because you will always get emotionally attached. Men do misleading gestures all the time when its evolved around sex. Now I'm not saying by any means that some women can handle it and know what they want out of it (important: WHAT THEY WANT OUT OF IT). If you think that things are "all good" because he is satisfied you have lost the battle, men will be satisfied all the time if sex is the lead in pitch. Now if the understanding is that you want to build a friendship ladies you have to keep "man" on a bed of eggs that he is afraid to break. Now the catch is you cant make him feel like there is know light at the end of the tunnel because he will not lay on the bed. I digress..........to my first question can women spot a good one in "player ways"? There are alot of decent dudes out there that are afraid to settle down because out side of the oats being soiled they have not been touched emotionally where there is a connection. If the cat likes sports and you don't give a damn about sports or don't know who the Pittsburgh Bobcats are??????????????? then there is a problem. You have to like sports for the moment that like you wanting him to enjoy going in GAP, SAXE, LOUIS, GUCCI, ARDEN B, etc. find his hot spots (no pun) and cater to them in return you will get more out of it trust me. This subject is a little all over the place but I was thinking about it because I hear so much frustration on my friends behalf about no good men out there and dawg I'm going to settle down but......
The agendas have to match.......fellas learn how to listen, shut up, and learn how to take a deep breath and do what she ask. ladies learn how to leave him be, understand he doesn't like women things (shopping and reality shows), and hanging with the fellas has nothing to do with tryin to find other women.......it is HANGING WITH THE FELLAS. Now if you encompass liking sports and going out as well be careful of how much of either you indulge in because you have to make sure the main attraction in and out the house is he/she. One other note.....I don't talk about religion much ( I have my views on what GOD does for us) but please if you are not searching at bible study, Wednesday prayer night, earlier morning service, Sunday bible study, church barbecue, women's day, annual trip to carowinds then do not expect to find the holy saved man/women outside of that. I understand you want certain criteria but you cant expect you standards to be higher than want you stand to. If you want all of that but I see you at HUSH, PURE, TABU, 935, or anywhere in the A or other cities then you are not living by the standards you are looking for... If you are looking for the the saved then get saved and go find him/her in that setting. Thats all folks

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The attraction factor

2009-03-18T08:23:00.000-07:00

Greetings......so I pose this question to a friend recently what draws people to each other? Its funny some of the answers you get but in a nut shell its all about preference. I used to have a thing about Fine, Sexy, Extremely beautiful women in ugly cars. Don't ask it was just one of my thing that and ugly shoes.....for instance (please don't take offense if you had one of these cars or shoes..) a fine women driving a old tarus (not the new ones they are nice) like 90 or 95 something like that or a fine women wearing bullet toes or something. I guess you can call me shallow but hey swaggar equals talking pretty, being pretty, looking pretty. Now I think I can talk to women and find there beauty. I think as a man you should make a women feel beautiful no matter if she is a friend or significant other....now now now dont get it twisted I address my wife totally different but, I think my friends will say I compliment and tell them that I think they are beautiful and try to encourage them. Men are shallow and a bit slow but we understand over time when some of us mature. Ladies don't get discouraged we take time to age and become the wine you want to drink... however trade in that tarus lol and those bullets and get a civic and some airforces lol....

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Thug, Good Guy, Nerd, or Ordinary, Ballers

2009-03-05T07:53:00.000-08:00

Greetings..........Here is a question that is interesting b/c you always here women love bad boys although they know bad boys are not good for them. My question is is the Thug/Goon or whatever you want to call it as attractive as they appear to be? Why do women get drawn to Thugs? Good Guys really don't get play until the Thug does the Thug thing and that is going nowhere. The Nerd is only attractive in certain settings where his insight and knowledge are the wow factor of thats "what I need in my life". Ballers always get love b/c they some what encompass all of the above but they are more players than anything else on and off the court. Which one is the most desireable or wanted? What type of guy presents the biggest challenge for women? What makes a man intimadating.........not in a sense of fear but a sense of nervousness where he is so attractive that a. you don't know how to be around him or b. you want to keep distance b/c you know you would be attracted to a person that you are afraid to love "I'm not scared of lions, tigers, and bears....but I am scared of.....Loving you". Interesting one again but fun to talk about.

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Maybe the most interesting of all.....

2009-03-02T08:10:00.000-08:00

Greetings...........now this one has been an accumulation of thoughts that have all come together for this particular topic. The question is, is there one person you would dropped it all for? You see it in the movies all the time but does that happen in real life? If you don't drop it all would you let your conscious and guard down to share a moment with someone? Has there been that "unfinished business scenario"? Whether its an intimate situation or just a heart to heart to let your now/then feelings all out on the table just so you can have "closure" with that person. Is there that someone in your life that you want to keep in your life b/c of the attraction but keep them at a distance for fear of what you might do? Are there people you want to see but don't really want to see b/c of your overwhelming feelings towards them despite your own situation. I find this topic interesting from past experiences where people wouldn't talk to me or didn't want to be near me b/c of bottle feelings. I can say this subject is somewhat attached to many of the other conversations but, like in the title this maybe the most interesting of them all.........let me know what you think

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What is it?

2009-02-23T14:04:00.000-08:00

Greetings................ok its been some time now and I am trying not to bombarde you with topic after topic so I will take my time with you (lol). Now I was thinking about what life is about and how should you live it? People have their own reasons for doing what they do and "if I could do it again I would" moments. I have had some fun moments in life and some bad but I have learned from both. I believe you do run into people for reason and you share with them a moment in time for a reason as well. I am thankful for all too. My question after listening to Beyonce's DIVA song, how do "DIVAS" carry themselves socially? Ok they huslte I understand but do they indescretly "get down" b/c they feel they have the freedom to do so or does societies definition of a LADY come into play? I have seen a growing trend of women "doing me" not in a sexual sense but just living. If they are in a relationship they are happy but still have that other side, if they are single then they want to be in a relationship and have that other side. This is a interesting dynamic that I am eager to explore, can DIVAS weed out "game"? I think some women want to be smooth talked but I guess it would depend on who the smooth talker is and what she wants him to do. Which leads to my next question what is a good "game", can you be talked out of your drawls or do you just know from the moment you see 'him' that he can "get it"? I love hearing this because women "hate" the games but some like being wrapped up in it (the good situations). Is there really a Player out there since sooooooooooo many women can check game at the door but there are some smooth as a babys butt laying on a silk blanket guys out there who can smile and all hell breaks loose. Tell me about...........I would love to hear this one

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Sweeter the Juice

2009-02-09T08:06:00.000-08:00

Greetings.....so I got on the subject of memorable moments and how long those impressions last. Is it possible to have those one of a kind experiences that no matter how long the time differential that if the thought of that moment just runs thru your soul as if it was happening all over again. Thats what you call the "bomb" lol, and people just have to share it with others or just keep it bottled up. What would be the case......is it something you have to tell or something you have to say "g.damn" I can't tell anyone about that ish b/c it was unreal. Its amazing how strong the mind is....and how it makes memories last forever.

Short and to the point...........don't want to be too long

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Time

2009-02-06T06:04:00.000-08:00

Greetings, so I figure instead of daily blogs I will give some time in between blogs, nothing much has been going on other than work. Valentines Day is coming up and I think I will keep it simple but special again this year. Flowers........tie balloons on the car while she is at work put a card in the car (two sets of car keys are great) and dinner at Ruth's Christ.......nothing much has been up for discussion just watching the world turn and people revealing their lights. Funny how you begin to see things and how things get presented to you. I am wise beyond my years when it comes to relationships and the dog vs. cat chase. I know most dudes say that but, trust me......I am hell when it comes to knowing the In's and outs and how to play it. So with that being said I am having counseling sessions on here now....lmao and I will have to look at a talk show or something....I am the official pistol starter lmao.

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Strange Religion

2009-01-30T07:05:00.000-08:00

Greetings, I was watching this thing on Ted Haggard the evangelic pastor who was having relations with a boy, male hooker, and doing drugs and now he is about to be famous for his sins. I am curious to know why do we somehow find a way to glorify this behaivor? Also his church banished him from presiding over them. Now if they are of the faith then shouldn't they forgive him and let him pray for forgiveness? Now this is a topic that I definately want to stay away from (religion that is) b/c everyone has there own opinions. However I think this particular case everyone can have a comment on. How is it the HBO is taking this "reality show" of his life and trying to make it a source of entertainment? The man's wife who has probably endured more abuse than her husband has managed to forgive him and try to move forward, which leads me to the question was this a way to "get famous"? To me his interview was a little bit awkward because he is self proclaiming his problems and is almost looking for the forgiveness (which.....he may deserve) but it was almost a plea to say I lied now I am admitting my guilt. Strange very strange funny thing is I am a Law and Order buff so a lot of these real life cases they make on L & O so you can sort of see how they can be interpreted. Sorry to jump off the scale but this was very very very strange to see this this moring on the today show

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Another Day

2009-01-28T06:47:00.000-08:00

Greetings, pardon my absence but hey work comes first. So I have been floating through this thing called life for about a week now and have'nt stumbled on any revelations. I realize that another friend of mine is have relationship problems and I feel bad for her cause she is attractive, smart, good job, and she is not aggrevating like some women (notice some) can be. I don't know any guys right now I could introduce her to because a. they are tied up b. I know their intentions. Why is it that good women get passed over......well hell excuse me I can answer that. Let me re-phrase the qustion: Why can't men learn how to get their shit together? I mean I agree we (men) are trying to figure out how to treat a women well into our late 20's and early 30's but, why can we figure it out. To me there is a way to treat a women and still have her acknowledge your imperfections. The better a women understands you faults the easier it is. For instance going out to dinner, movies, movies at home etc. then the next night wanting to hang with the fellas or go to the bar and chill without coming by (only a phone call). That will piss a woman off usually especially if things look like there going in the right direction but, it the make up process that helps. Also why can't we figure out that even when a woman consents to sex she is open herself up to have feelings which as a man we try to avoid. How come we have not figured it out yet that even though she acts like it's consensual and all is good that she will not catch feelings. They catch feelings all the time almost every time so fellas know this before you lay it down what you are about to do is lay the ground works for some sort of relationship. Anywho I babbled for a little bit but my point is so many dudes claim to know the "game" but, they really don't understand it, end result good women become harder to find and good men get tossed in the pool of badness.

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44

2009-01-20T07:53:00.000-08:00

Greetings, now I have said on a few occassions I would'nt get into politics but, the fact that this MAN is making this remarkable step is something we must all sit back and say progress. Now I will add I take a different approach to the said "brother, black man" taking office. This MAN is neither black nor white and only by Jim Crow and rules of the past defines him as such. Now I am not discarding the fact that he has color...no no no not at all but, we the people of the United States have to understand that the states have been united for quite some time its' the people who haven't so as it has finally manifested itself we are finally becoming the United People of America. Why do we continue to say racial barriers are being broken when we still put a title of "the black president" by what law qualifies this MAN as being black? He is the peoples people he is white and he is black, he has lived both lives and embraces that fact. Now I can almost assure when the said "brother" was growing up and living with his "white" family that he was shunned and outcasted by both ethnic groups because he didn't fit in either. Now all of a sudden he, is this great BLACK MAN because he is darker than the other 43, he has swaggar as my buddy EJ said, he relates with his African bretheren. This is the biggest stepping stone in American history to let a man that has color run the country that was built by the very people it oppressed. Considering we have come along way lets not undermind all who fought for freedom. It goes further than MLK (great ambassador) who was able to have a hightended platform to get us to the "Promise Land". To have a High School in Mississippi that has had it's first intergrated prom in 2008 says that strides have been made but there is a lot of covering up going on as well. Just because we are not facing the hoses and dogs doesn't mean the fight is over it has just shifted to mental battle i.e. we are the majority in the prison system which is part of the reason we can't ever have a voice in society b/c inmates don't get that privilege, we "gangs" instead of fraternities and sororities trying to make change.....killing each other which is a lose lose a. we die b. we continue to our residency in the prisons. 2008 and first intergrated prom ......2008! Now I am not taking away this life and world changing moment, i am just saying don't let the media over hype it to the point to where we think we have achieved something greater than the struggle. I also watched some brothers state their cases of working hard to be able to get where you want (not being negative) but, there is a thing called affirmative action which is more prevelant now than it was 20 years ago. Yes we have overcome many obstacles and I am thankful for all the struggles my people have gone through for me to get where I am but, BUT have we ever sat and thought that we are in some of the positions we are in to say here we will give you this so you can shhh for awhile? I will take all of that everyday because the bigger the crack in the door the greater the opportunity for us to get in a prove our worth but BUT folks do not get it twisted the ancestors fought the physical battles and wars so we would'nt have to now it is up to us to fight the mental, social, political wars so the next generation can take another giant step. Knowledge is Everyting.....don't be nieve....be aware, be thankful, be hopeful, be thoughtful, most of all be stedfast.

Brotherhood, Scholarship, Service is what a wise man once told me.

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Socialite.........

2009-01-15T07:14:00.000-08:00

Greetings, ok today I want to get into the social realms and figure out what makes someone popular, corny, etc. The extrodinary swaggar that so few have but so many want....can you obtain it or is it an uncanny ability to catch the eye of those around you. Is it appearance is it, who you know, or is it who knows you? What gives certain folks a "celebrity" status with in the circle of their peers? Ladies what does a guy have to do (this day in age) to catch your eye without even speaking or looking your direction. Can you spot swaggar and cool from a mile away or do you have to get in the persons personal space to feel his/her cool? I know a lot of cool people but, there are few I just look at and say damn she got it going on...ya know. No action warranted just a daydream moment when you think intimately about that person i.e. what if? Swaggar has been around for a long time but, not til T.I. came with the song people have been talking about it so much (I guess that's the cool thing to be now...no more thugs or goons (whatever that is)). Everybody wants to have swaggar......................even if you may not be that attractive (or at least you have'nt appeared to be in the past) is there a way to suddenly have a swag about you that makes you cute, fine, or sexy which I think being sexy is far better than any other compliment because to me sexy means that you have something about you that is against the norm and it draws people to you. Well I'm keeping it short but, this is a hellova topic..........

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Today.....

2009-01-14T07:56:00.000-08:00

Greetings,.............ok today is not as exciting but, needless to say I am thankful for all the people I deem friends. I always have indulging conversations with them and they help fuel these blogs.
Nothing much new today but, just asking myself when do you know you have a "friend" a confidante? Someone who can hold their word with you? In this day in age how do you know when to invest your time into someone? People you have had experiences with that you can hold on to forever. I know many many many many people (most people do) and I know (I'm not nieve) they talk about me....some good, some bad, some care not to speak. I have too many flaws to even go down the list but, I must say for those I deem friends I have never destroyed their character even through disagreements. Not saying by any means someone has deliberately tried or is trying I was just thinking of all of those I talk to on a constant. Those who know a little bit more about me than the average. Know my imperfections but embrace it and don't judge, those who try to help me when I question myself. How or when do you know that that person is in your corner because over a lifetime you never know what will happen next? Strange discussion today but, just one of those reflection days where I have to say I appreciate everybody who is pro Luc or against Luc. lol.........

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Ladies..........

2009-01-13T08:15:00.001-08:00

Greetings,...........so i was talking to my buddy Apple Jacks again and we got on the conversation on good guys and bad guys. There are very few good dudes left out there and same goes for the ladies. The challenge is fighting temptation unfortunately being "cool" can only go but so far. There are good dudes you have to bring the goodness out, we (men) are so lost right now that we are losing our souls and the only thing besides GOD (who created woman as our strength and balance) is woman that can save us. Easier said than done, you will notice a lot of men showing great qualities in the beginning then they start falling off. Reason is because we may realize we have a good woman then fear sets in like "damn is this it" is this the one. Whether it is or not we fear the thought of being commited (in the aspect of having someone to answer to). All of us want to be in a relationship and the ones that came "player, MOB, or whatever" are the one's that desparately want it but, feel an obligation to maintain societies brainwashing. We are easily influenced by our surrounding where women are influenced my wisdom. We poses the strength and security women look for and women poses the reason, wisdom, and feelings that we lack. Together they are balance apart they are chaos i.e. "dogs" and "ho's". How do we defeat this battle because with the rise of homosexuality it makes it difficult because the battle is not just with the opposite sex its same sex now too (i'm not oppose to gay relationships, if thats you do you). We men have to stop subjecting ourselves to being providers, lovers, and players. That mentality gives birth to..."I buy, you eat, you have" therefore you can't say anything to me. Women have to stop as well, now with the independence ( I don't need a man concept) that too is very misleading if not wrong, women's emotional override needs the lack of emotion a man provides to balance things out (you don't have to like what I say just think about it and say yeah he is right). Now to figure how do I keep a good man, or how do I find one. You don't, we will discover you because you could have a good one in front of you (that shows signs of being good but also has player qualities). The best player will make the best husband or boyfriend if....and I mean IF he is intune with you and what you bring to him (I am speaking balance). The best "player" understands a womens needs, wants, and knows how to cater to her therefore he is in tuned.....now on the other hand he is also the most timid one of the bunch b/c he knows that if he is "tamed" then he (in the eyes of his peers) has punk'd out. You may not agree but, its the truth. I for example knew I could be a good man but, I tried and failed (I got hurt once) and then was "scared" of putting myself out there again so I was the ultimate "player" so to speak not prolific in terms of flaunting it I found myself to be the "player" that you would want to be involved with but, were scared to because you knew I was a "player" lol strange I know but very true (I could be a good man but, I did'nt want to be). It took my wife who understands me to challenge my "player" (she made it a competition between me and my conscious) which is the biggest key to a "player" (his ego, his confidence, his knowledge, his unwillingness to conform). Now once you reverse his phsycology meaning, you challenge him to be with one and for him to believe "he still got it". That is power in a "player's mind" knowing that if I want to I could. That is the difficulty finding his hot zone his comfort and playing the player against hisself. How do you do it...................well that's the question but, once you learn it he is yours. looking to hear back so I can elaborate......

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Monday

2009-01-12T06:17:00.000-08:00

Greetings, it is another monday moring and of course I am in the office but, I have to take time to engage in this blog. Great conversation last week on a variety of platforms, now I am asking the question what makes a relationship a relationship? Is it the first time you have relations? Is it the first kiss? Is it a designated time in which you indulge yourself with a person? Ladies in particular, you get this all the time.....when you are just "kicking it" and after your night of relations, feelings get involved and next thing you know your trying to figure out where you stand. Trust that fellas get caught up but, we don't like to admit it hence the distance and the uncertainty of where things actually stand. Are one nighters annomalies (sp), are one nighter accepted, are one nighters ok? Is there every an occassion where a physical relationship makes sense or is warranted? There are many occasions (a past relatioship i.e.) were the commonality is a great physical attraction (a lot of unbeleivable nights, mornings, evenings, lunch, I digress) and there is not much socially....is it healthy to maintain that or just stay away from it? What if there is an immense social attraction that is not healthy to take any further even tho by thought it would make sense to try.

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True Love

2009-01-09T07:22:00.000-08:00

Greetings,..................ok the topic today will be short and brief.......its a simple question is thier a "Soul Mate"? What does it mean? Is there more than one? There are millions of people in the world from all backgrounds and ethnicities. Think about personalities of all the millions of people in the world, is there just one the goes perfect with you or is the several.....? Is it a matter of finding them, them finding you, or the stars being aligned? Now if that happens, what happens if there is more than one and you meet that person?

Today is interesting because I think that question has been posed but, not been explored in depth.

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Curiosity Kills...

2009-01-08T05:56:00.000-08:00

Greetings.......I have pondered this thought for quite some time, and looking at my dating career lol, and that of friends (male,female). Has there ever come a time where you were attracted to a friends significant other or attracted to a friend of a friend but, you know you cant say anything because of the complexities of the relationships involved? This I think is a very very interesting topic to explore. I mean has there been an occassion where you have thought about someone beyond "hey my name is......nice meeting you?". I bring this up after listening on the moring show about Brad Pitt and the questions of him cheating with Angelina Jolie on Jennifer Anisten. I mean that is the hot topic now considering they have been married now for what 2 years.....that is the hot news this moring......I digress badly! Now back to the topic, Brad mentioned that they worked together on the set of Mr. and Mrs. Smith for over a year now him and Jen were on the outs but, the fact is I think he may have met Angelina long before and was like "damn" and she remained on his mind and vice versa. Now back to the question of is there anyone you have met in the past where they stayed on the brain and you said to yourself "man, if the right opportunity came around......it's going down or if they become available to where it wont be complicated then I'm on it"

Tell me

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SO

2009-01-07T05:44:00.000-08:00

Greetings.......so I spent all day running around like a chicken with the head cut off but, needless to say I had some down time to think about the holidays, resolutions, and goals. I think one of my goals is to maintain confidence in what I am doing and who I am we so often get lost in the shuffle. So many things on my plate and just trying to hone in on one of them for the beginning of '09. I have been blessed and fortunate to be given a lot of the recent opportunities that I am ready to maximize them. Part of my resolutions were to work out (to get my "damn" back) and be a better daddy, husband, brother, friend, mentor. It's difficult being a brother this day in age and keeping your identity, once again that can get lost in the shuffle. Having an opportunity to do things outside of the box and inside were great to end 2008 now its time to capitalize. I met new people who I think will become apart of my circle (you must surround yourself with like minds in order to be successful). I will challenge myself and others to push for more (unfortunately living in SC is not the fertile promise land like most major cities.....but, it's a gold mine here). For all the women who I deem friends please if you are looking for guidance in relationships do not hesitate to ask me because I have been around the block and back many times so I know the game and how it has evolved...i digress.

So I'm wondering what '09 will bring because '08 provided a lot of challenges financially, spiritually, socially, and mentally. I have come to realize that no matter if you are married women will still test you, I realize as simple as a little extra work from a small investment so you can make extra money is not as easy as it should be. I realize that bills don't stop they keep coming, I realize that The MOS HIGH puts obstacles in your path so you can face them and be prepared for your blessings as long as you have faith and understand its not up to "you". I realize not everyone is on your side so it was another year of learning, growing, and believing.

This year will be fun, exciting, prosperous, and ...the beginning

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Beauty in the eyes

2009-01-06T06:20:00.000-08:00

Greetings............now I had some time to sit and think yesterday on lunch and was curious to know what makes a person fine, sexy, beautiful, ugly, cute, etc. to somebody else. Man Law - men have a grading scale and some guys are way way way way off and most are pretty accurate. I am curious if the opposite sex knows these grading scales or are they aware of only a particular persons judgement? Man Law - 34:5 we look all the time, not to disrespect but, by habit I guess you can say by nature no matter if the person is voluptuous, skinny, built, tall, short, or fat it doesn't matter we look to put it on the scale (if it falls on it at all). Yes we are shallow like that but, hey...................so is riding in the new e-class, range rover, l series etc for women (so whatever ladies if you are saying "uh uh"). It seems once we learn what the person is about or like then we re-measure where they fall i.e. if you have a dime that is stuck up she then becomes like a 7 or 6 even ya know. Some what interesting topic, I mean I have seen some women that I know by consensus she would not be a "dime piece" but, I find that something about her and it makes her sexy.................

lets talk about it

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I'm Back

2009-01-05T05:41:00.000-08:00

Greetings, I apologize for being gone for so long but, I had a lot of work to get done and I was'nt near a computer to say anything.

Needless to say I had a wonderful holiday season and a solid new year even though my team lost for their bowl game. I had alot of time to just sit and think about what I would like to achieve in 09, I need to be more in tune with my higher self, make better decisions both business and personal, make money as well as start giving back. I would like to start working out so I can trim down and get back to how I used to be, I'm ok now but I was a specimen just a few years ago. I have been become curious about a few things a. where this economy will be in the next 6 months b. how many more challenges will I face. I know the MOST HIGH puts these challenges in place for a reason I'm just wondering how will I fair or succeed.

What will the male and female aspect of life bring in this new year, we continue to amaze each other and in some cases we are very entertaining to others, Well this is my welcome to 2009 and lets just say I think I will have a lot of new topics to explore.

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Xmas EVE

2008-12-24T08:15:00.000-08:00

Greetings,.................so I will start by saying I had a good time last night at this all black xmas party. Now there are a few points I would like to evaluate: 1. If its all black shouldn't/doesn't that mean ALL black? 2. Are all black parties popular b/c you literally do not have to shop (if you do its easy) or really groom much...no ironing or anything (dark club dark clothes no one knows)? 3. Why do dudes wear sun glasses in the night club.....what part of sun or night gets confusing? Just a few things I saw and was curious to find an answer to. Anyway it was fun hanging out with the fellas and having a good time (ladies strangly enough good men consider a good time hanging with their boys, drinking a cocktail/wine, and standing by the wall).

On to another topic this is after having a conversation with my homie AppleJacks, and she couldn't make it last night but, I understood (she is another good friend and I like to see all of us at one time when possible) but it's the reason why. .............ok here is where I elaborate, her significant other (i presume) essentially had a problem with her going out.....which is kinda weird b/c usually the shoe is on the other foot (I'm married and been with my wife for 5 1/2 years (1 1/2 married.....i digress) women are the one's normally like "why you got to go out?" but for a dude to say it its a little weird to me. Now I understand spending time and if you are not getting the attention you want then righfully so you should command it but, men do not think like that we don't mind (most fella's I know) if you go out b/c that gives us us time. Playstation (MAN LAW 12:3), ESPN (MAN LAW 1:1), at your boy's house who has the pool table (MAN LAW 56:2), or going out to bar to grab a beer or wings (MAN LAW 2:34) now on the other foot women are like "hell no, what you need to be out for, you aint single no more etc." lol, ladies you know I'm speaking the truth here. Nervous about that "other chick" whether she exist or not, most of the time we just want to be out with the boys, clown, drink, and have a good time nothing more than that. Now I will address this fact and it is a fact this would fall under LOVE LAW 10:10 if she is getting on your nerves, asking you a million questions, not intune to your "needs", nagging, and just always trippin then by LOVE LAW 10:10 a man doesn't have the right to leave or misconduct himself but, understand if all those factors play into that LAW then ladies you have a potential disaster on your hands. Now, am I approving it no by no means and should we be more sensitive to your needs YES I am a advocate of that but, MEN are from MARS; WOMEN are from VENUS we do not and I mean DO NOT think the same way. So ladies a bit of advice from someone who has become a better man through past experiences (my previous relationship) if you have a sociable man on your hands (typically a sagitarius(or fellas if your woman is a sag)) then by nature they are comfortable amongst people and if you are not (typically pisces and gemini's) then you have to understand it.....I did'nt say let it slide but, you must realize that fact is what it is. Now on the flipside the more "freedom" we (i'm speaking for sociable people) have the more we are in tuned to your wants and need and matter of fact we responed better to the lact of questioning. Anyway that was a lot and we will shut this down for today........I'm sure I will get some feed back if not I will add more tomorrow (yes I know its Xmas day but, by 5pm its a normal day lol)

to be continued.........

until.............

Slow Monday

2008-12-23T08:03:00.000-08:00

Greetings, ................so yesterday was pretty dull not much happening. Worked then went to my old high school to watch them play in this big holiday tournament outside of that nothing really sparked my interest. Nothing was on/in the news worth noting and I haven't had any interesting dreams lately. I do have a thought tho, for the ladies......fellas please don't feel neglected i have a bunch in store (about the importance of m.n.f., college game day, NBA on TNT, and 'hanging with my boys tonight') but, ladies have you ever been drawn to a man who wasn't the finest thing in the party but, just had that "swagger"? I'm curious to know about this swagger phenomena. "No one on the corner has swagger like us" I mean what is swagger I know for me its a women who doesn't have to say anything doesn't really have to look my way or even smile........you can just see her gleaming from the inside. Interesting, I want to hear more about this swagger thing

Until.....................

Interesting....

2008-12-22T05:43:00.000-08:00

Greetings.....so I had quite an entertaining weekend first I took my family to the basketball game which we won and second, I got to hang out with my co-workers playing rockband or guitar hero (whatever you call it), had a few cocktails and then went out after that (let's just say it was a first for numerous reasons). I had a great time I must say and will be looking forward to doing it again. Another reason for me to love what I am doing.

Now to cover a few things that I saw or heard this weekend first my damn STEELERS lost which was not so bad b/c we lead the division however I was pissed at the lack of class the young tit-ans show but, he its football....i.q. is not that high for some (i digress).

I read in the paper about the NFL laying off like some 1,100 workers which falls back to my friday blog of why in the hell do people who make betweem 25k - 50k get layed off while athletes continue to sign 15k/day type salaries, the executives also? This will continue to baffle me in this time of RECESSION. We will dive in to more details later....

Now to the "meat" of what I was going to discuss last week on performance....ladies this question is for you: Is size important? Length, gerth or both? Is it simply rhythm and being able to work with what you have? Does expectations hurt (meaning you have someone you have heard about or they brag on themselves)? I'm curious to know (not like I would use this knowledge). I have been told that I did well (past tense people lol) a. b/c of the surprise! b. i knew what i was doing, now that is not to brag or embelish my capabilities but, its just to say I did'nt get any negetive reviews (or so I don't think). Tell me this if it was bad ladies or gents would you tell your partner? I don't think I could do that, I had some bad one's and I just kept it to myself. This is a interesting topic that I would like some feed back on.......let me know

until..........

Superficial

2008-12-19T07:22:00.000-08:00

Greetings,.........ok so I was listening to Michael Basden show yesterday and heard the strangest thing about a "Brazilian Butt lift" and thought to myself.....WOW not wow like more nice booty to look at (although i'm not really complaining) but, just thinking the extremes we go to make ourselves pleasing to the eye. Now I must admit I like a nice round bottom and wait...i'm digressing. This really stood out to me just thinking about all the women (most cases, asian, caucasion) that don't really have a history of nice booties. However, there are many exceptions and I will add I'm not really that much into butts (it really irrelevant that comment) but a nice ass is very nice to look at (all men look so forget trying to say you don't fellas if you are reading this, well unless you are gay (which is cool if thats you)). How big is too big tho, when you look at Buffie and all those women, is that not border line fat? Now magazines make it real attractive but, to me that like seeing what Vanessa Williams looks like without make-up maybe misleading. Interesting how cosmetic surgery has changed the world and made people even that much more insecure....but, society is part the blame too. All in all I guess if that's what you want to do then by all means do it, but, why not enjoy you for who you are and not wanting to enjoy you cause of what someone else thinks. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and I can tell you right now if you have a nice ass and big breast, thin waist, long/short hair, and have the bad attitude noone will pay you any attention trust me. Be you........
Besides in my own personal experiences the super fine, thick, or well balanced (lol) females can't take the.........uh lets just say they are better for public display (that was very man like, sorry i'm not trying to offend but you understand what I'm saying) or maybe they could'nt handle me....or maybe I sucked.............hmmmmmmmmmmm something else to discuss, thats going to be a good one don't miss my next blog on performance lol!

Enjoy the weekend folks.....check me out monday I should have lot's to say

Until....................

So Tell Me......

2008-12-18T06:12:00.000-08:00

Greetings..............so I said to myself I would'nt discuss the economy but, I was watching the moring show and was seeing something about a 50 billion dollar scam or fraud or whatever and I thought to myself and we wonder why we are in the situation we are in. My personal opinion the gov knows of these wrong doings and there are certain people in power that are probably benefitting from this, now if you don't know me i am big on conspiracies and I have a whole list of them but, we will get into that later (i digress..) so this cat came up with a 50 billion dollar scheme that this man made machine called Wall Street is just now figuring out........yeah right. If the gov can tap phones, have satelite transmission to see what you are doing, etc. they have to know stuff like this is going on. Now my opinion is that sense the economy is the way it is to avoid the really really big frauds and scams to come out they are slowly going to rat on the middle people. We have been duped for a long time unfortunately. Sooooooooooooo that was my moring and just thinking what can you do with 50 billion dollars.

I am even more shocked a professional sports (i am a former athlete so I understand getting that money for playing ball) but, we are in a RECESSION people.....getting an extra 20 million dollars to me is minute in comparison to the families that are getting kicked on the streets (feel me). I think it has become way way way to selfish and less entertaining now that we have mega stars, mega churches, mega athletes, hell the entertainment (sports) industry could bail this country out by it self. Now, I had the honor and was blessed to play in Europe for 5 1/2 years and made a good living. The polotics of playing over there and playing in the US is completly and I mean completly different if a team doesn't want you the send you packing and alot of times without money....now in the LAND OF OPPORTUNITY a team doesn't want you the send you packing to another team that will pay you and the team that sent you still has to pay what they owe. Strange but, hey I guess it fits....and we wonder why they are catching up to us because in order to survive you have to perform, here these superstars complain when they play bad, they sit on there ass and complain b/c people are wondering.....In this time of recession all I have to rely on is my sports hero lol and this fool is holding out to get more millions added on to his, guess what MILLIONS! We can't even get the millionare celebrities to come to my city and do anything.....they love their state..........uh NOT. On the contrary I can understand why, this place has alot of demons (another conspiracy that we will talk about later, i digress) and its portrayed everywhere. I love my SOUTH but, let's face it, it's the SOUTH and you know what that means.
I went on a tantrum excuse me, so back to the millionaires who are sitting on there 20k dollar couches and stuff you have regular folks helping families in need, buying their homes so they don't get kicked out (while the gov is trying to get their money to save the economy) and you have all these rich folks that could give back to the city to the counties bail out your communities SUPERSTARS! I'm not rich by no means but, I am helping those who I can with what little I have.

Last topic:
Some folks in OHIO just won $207 million, I mean damn......15 people hit and I must say, I am hating but, I am sooooooooooooooo happy for them especially the one brother that took a chance with the group. That's like 13 mil a piece.....well after UNCLE SAM THE SCAM takes his cut it will be more like 7 but, still that can save a family for generations to come, it could help others in need. Now I have been designing my lottery plan and I already know where my donations will go if I ever hit the big one, not in this order per say. Church, Schools, Family, Community.....I am going to give mine back. If I won and got 7 million out of it I would probably keep 3-4 and spread the other 3-4 out to those entities. 3 million can last a long time if you know what to do with it. Well that is my rambling for the day, yesterday GOD was just as good as yesterday and the day before and today and the days after.

Until................

Not Much

2008-12-17T06:20:00.000-08:00

Greetings,

Today is kinda dry, nothing much going on. I had an entertaining dream last night in which my humor (which for those that don't know me, I am halarious ) I was mcing an event and realized in my dream that I was of course in 3rd person but, I was laughing my ass off in my own dream. I was listening to the stuff I was saying and really like laughing, then I had to shift my position b/c it was time to move and lost the damn dream. If you are reading this I know you are saying to yourself...."man I hate when that happens". Very true I fished and fished to find that incredibly funny dream and all I got was...................................................................................................
that nothing but, sleep.

Well I will say I am blessed and thankful for getting up again to tell this story but, nothing much went on yesterday just work and realizing that I have a really good job and my creativity and my reaching out to an untapped community is going to be hard but I think I can do it. I'm young I am funny as hell (i digress), I am smart, I good enough looking to look at for a second glance on the 3rd you will probably be like "he's cute....ah ok" lol, so its time to put it together my school is making strides to overcome some long lasting barriers and I'm glad that I am apart of it. well thats all for today

comment if you like

until............

Curious

2008-12-16T08:59:00.000-08:00

HI, ok now to the good stuff so I was talking to my buddy Petite6 yesterday and we were joking around about xmas gifts. Anyhow we got on the subject of thongs and sexy attire for special occassions, I was like what is the point of wearing anything at all because it is going to come off....right? I really have'nt understood the point of "wearing something sexy for somebody". I get it but, I don't understand it....I mean yeah it looks nice when you walk in the door but within 10 mins its gone and probably will never be seen again. Flashback: I had this girl I was talking to back in school (she will forever be nameless), we were'nt dating we just were "friends" lol (for those of your who know me stop guessing). Anyway it was Feb 14th and she put on something "sexy" for me and it was cool but I don't think she trimmed the hedges very good cause there was a lil sprouts hanging out the sides which as you can imagine made me laugh inside but, hey I was having to stay in the moment, outside of that we had a great night (i digress) but, my point is a. if you are going to do that......get a fade b. just bald it down for the occassion. WOMEN fyi it is not sexy to have hair hanging out the Secrets. Which brings me back to what I am saying, it will be coming off anyway so WHY buy it? Now on the other hand I had a better experience in school when a young lady (unfortunately I was active my first 2 years, shoot me I was a college boy) came to visit me in a robe with some nice fitting Secrets on underneath she had it together, she came in teased me a little bit and left and told me her door would be open......can you say roadrunner high speed ( i digress), 2 different experiences same results but, I think its all about the presentation, would'nt you say? Bottome line is if you are going to do it make sure you do it to the fullest don't half @ss the occassion, also realize that you just waisted money on a item that will be seen for about 5-10 mins and then poof its gone into oblivion cause you can't wear the same sexy thing twice.....women law 56:9

until..........

Good weekend but I have some thoughts..

2008-12-15T06:13:00.000-08:00

Greetings to all,

So this weekend I got to hang out with some friends and do what we do.....domino's, food, and drinks. I also celebrated my 29th birthday. Its amazing how far I've come and I am proud to say its been a great 29 looking forward to the next birthday good willing. I also had time to reflect on my past and think about all the people that I have had encounters with. Quite interesting I must say, I have had some wild times, some bad ones, and some thank you lord ones (although I say it everyday). I thought about all the things that I did'nt do.....I will leave that right there but needless to say I am back at work this monday morning and saying I am blessed.

Enough of all the formalities I am curious to know why artist keep coming out with this independent woman stuff? Now I am all for women having thier own and being successful but, we can not coexist without each other. On the other hand we can't co-habitate at the rate we are either, now I am an supporter of being who you are and "doing you" as my mom's says "shit happens" (i digress) but, why is there so much influence on women having theirs and men having theirs....has anyone heard the saying "a house divided.....". I believe that is one of the major problems we have today is that men and women now think seperately. Men is "M.O.B." and women are all about "I don't need a man for ish...". I love women and I am thankful for the one's in my life, the one's I had experiences with, and the one's that still want to have experiences with me (I cannot entertain). I say that because with out a woman or women I am not motivated to look nice, to wear nice clothes, to get my ish together. I realized yesterday why I love my wife as much as I do because a. she understands me b. she works hard c. she wants to support the family but still proclaims her independence. I love that she does'nt have to work but, she wants to feel like she is contributing and loves what she is doing. That is beautiful to me, we have an ole school love, I admit I am not perfect and I strive everyday to be perfection for her but, I have my short comings. Bottome line is that we need each other and although entertaining I just think this INDEPENDENT things is going way too far.

Well I have more to say on some other topics but, I will leave that for tomorrow

Until......

Women

2008-12-12T06:17:00.000-08:00

greetings..........yeah yeah yeah salutations and all that, so I was sitting at home last night and I started thinking about all the females that I was really close with, and realized I am not close with them anymore. I have heard a common theme or realized that this maybe the reason why. That we get close enough to start liking each other and then when nothing ever happens its like we have to distance ourselves from one another, and then it dies. Lost contact, short conversation, the jokes don't seem to make me laugh as hard anymore, and that uncomfortable feeling of being around someone you are attracted to but you don't want to be or let's say you know you can't be attracted to. Just curious to why things like that happen? From the women or men who follow this give me some feed back, this is great couch talk, on why this happens.

It did happen to me once and then I ended up marrying one of my true friends.....maybe that is the fear....

until.............

and so it is left to be said

2008-12-11T07:42:00.000-08:00

Hello everyone and welcome to Food For Thought or couch talk however you want to call it.
today i got to work and realized that it has been a couple of weeks and i really have'nt done anything. i have made lots of calls and even reached out to some folks I did'nt think I could reach.....anyhow with all this time to just sit and wonder about things I wonder if I am the token thrown in to spice things up or am I the guy who can get the job done. I realize that I like what I am going to be doing but, right now it seems kinda empty since I don't know the full operations of things.

I decided to do a blog so people could ask questions, vent, even get advice. I must say I'm not an expert but, for the women out there that are trying to figure out what to do about "dumb men" which we are in a sense, I am here to answer the questions or comment on the subjects that are presented.

Well enjoy and lets really dive into some interesting topics...because believe me for those who know me, know their is no telling what I will say....

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